There are generally two schools of thought when it comes to marriage counseling – those who are completely on board with it, and those who would “never in a million years.” Well my friends, if you are married then it’s time to face the reality that at some point in your relationship you may need some outside assistance, shall we say.
Marriage is hard. Commitment takes work, compromise, and compassion. If you have made a lifelong pledge to another person then why would you not do everything possible to insure the success of that union? Why would you not do everything you can to be – happy?
Too many people go into marriage thinking that love, shared interests and a compatible value system are enough. Sometimes it just isn’t. As marriages grow, spouses evolve – which often means change. Most spouses want their relationships to progress as well; but that progression is ideally with the couple together, not apart.
It is incredibly challenging to fix a predicament you are a part of – that is why you may need outside help in the form of a marriage counselor.
Marriage counseling is provided by professional licensed therapists known as marriage and family therapists. These counselors have an expertise – relationships. The point of marriage counseling is to gain skills and accomplish change that you are not equipped to achieve on your own.
Counseling is generally done in a neutral, safe environment where you are comfortable expressing your feelings. You just have to be open to it.
There are limitless benefits to seeking marriage counseling, including:
- Communication: learning how to communicate better, and more effectively; learning how to argue in a positive way.
- Conflict resolution.
- Problem solving.
- Making peace with your past: work through unresolved issues and deal with painful emotions.
- Getting to know your spouse better.
- Learning how to say what you want.
- Falling more in love with your spouse.
- Improving intimacy with your spouse.
Going into marriage counseling, you have to be realistic on how difficult it is going to be, and how long the process may take. Therapy is not like taking a pill. And there’s another person to consider. Meaning, you both have to be equally committed to the path. Perhaps even more committed than you when you went into the marriage itself. With that said, ready to get to work?
Speak to a family law attorney at Lightning Legal Group for all your questions on marriage. We are the best in the fields of family and criminal law in New Mexico. Call us today to schedule a free consultation at 505-247-2390.